Wellness: How to shed the emotional weight by dropping the "Why"
I am not referring to the physical weight but mental and emotional weight, the kind that
In my daily morning meditation, I don't follow a particular meditation type, my priority is being able to check in with myself and get to center myself before the day ahead. I look at what comes up for me in the present moment, thoughts, feelings, energy - what is subconsciously bothering me that could potentially spill over and project into the day ahead of me. My goal with every deep and intentional breath of meditation is to avoid judgement and to find acceptance. And for this short present moment, I can achieve this acceptance by removing the reasons for why things are what they are...what I call - dropping the why?
With no more reasons to attach to objects, situations and people, things are simply what they are in that moment. Gravity entirely based on logic reasoning holds less power. Analytical by nature, my natural response is to overthink and for this brief meditative moment, I feel emotionally and physically lighter. I cease to be the self that is concerned with the multitude of reasons why things, situations and people are the way they are.
Don't get me wrong, it certainly helps to question things in life and to interrogate the deeper questions of ourselves and others. I would prefer that this be an intentional practice instead of critical questioning based on what the situation warrants instead of the unconscious habit which arrests every moment and holds captive the joy that acceptance of things outside of our control can sometimes offer. My next goal then becomes to hold onto this feeling for as long as possible into my day. I succeeded one Wednesday, when I started my day dropping the "why" in every possibly situation within my control. I did not need to know why my middle toe is longer than my big toe or why Mona is using that tone with me today, I also did not need to give anyone a reason for any of my life choices or circumstances. As you can imagine, this was incredibly freeing. I enjoyed the time by being unapologetic, often times leading by intuition, trying something new, doing something just because. I even enjoyed a dance party in the middle of my living room like no one was watching. I learnt a few new things about myself that day, I definitely want to try that meditation again and feel the joy and freedom that came with the love from judgement - my own and others that came with it. Tips and Takeaways Practice stoicism Live and Let go for a day Practice non-resistance
